Never let yourself be tied up by someone you don’t know really well or don’t trust completely.
Always agree upon a safe word. This is a word that ends the game. “No” or “don’t” are no good, for pleading can be part of the game. Better to use a word like “red”, something you would never use.
Talk about your limits: what do you not want to be done if you are tied up.
If you tie up someone, make sure you:
1. never put something around the front of the throat and never cover the head with a bag.
2. never have the ropes so tight you block the blood circulation. You should be able to slip a finger under the ropes/chains/scarves. Check regularly for coldness, numbness and discoloration as signs of circulation loss.
3. can loosen the other person quickly in case of emergency (e.g. fire), for instance with scissors or a knife.
4. don’t leave the one who is tight up alone.