It takes me a long time to come, especially during intercourse. Because I didn’t want to disappoint my lover I have been faking orgasms. But it doesn’t feel good. How do I tell him?

It’s good you have decided to tell him. For if you fake, you will never get the stimulation you need to climax. Talk with your friend about it outside the bedroom, when you’re both in a good mood and you have plenty of time. Tell him like it is: that you have faked because you need a long time to orgasm and you didn’t want to disappoint him. At first he might feel deceived and hurt. But don’t let this stop you. Give him time to deal with it. If he is too upset to talk, let it rest and talk about it later. When you make love again, let go of the idea that orgasm is the most important part of lovemaking. Learn to enjoy the excitement and intimacy, even if you don’t come. For if your orgasm becomes the focus it can spoil the sex. It’s probably good to know that most women don’t come during intercourse. They need clitoral stimulation. So experiment with fingering and oral sex, telling him what you like and don’t like. But you can also take a more active role during lovemaking, bringing yourself to orgasm.