We want to have sex but I’m afraid it will hurt.

To get rid of your fear you can experiment a little. Undress when you are alone and look at your vulva with a mirror. Draw the lips apart and find the vaginal opening. Wet your finger with saliva and insert your finger in your vagina. You can also use a water based lubricant. Move your finger back and forth. Once this goes well, try it with two fingers. Try to relax the muscles around your vagina. When two fingers fit comfortably, you’ll have no problem when you make love for the first time. A penis will not cause pain. But if you are still afraid ask your lover first to finger you and insert one and then two fingers. Take your time to get used to something in your vagina first. Intercourse is most pleasant when you are very relaxed and your vagina is wet enough. If you cannot insert your fingers or it hurts look under dyspareunia and vaginismus.