If you are an incest victim it’s important to talk about it. By keeping a secret you run the risk of staying in the embrace of shame, humiliation, fear and guilt. It can also ruin your sex life, remembering the abuse every time you kiss or make love. By talking about it you’ll be able to get moral support and assistance.
Most victims feel guilty. But know that this feeling has no base. You have done nothing wrong!
Look for someone you can trust, for instance (one of) your parents, an aunt, a next-door neighbour or a teacher. If you live in the Netherlands you can also call ‘de Kindertelefoon (0800-0432; 14.00-22.00 hour, without charge) or ‘Stichting Korrelatie’ (0900-1450; 9.00-22.00). In the United States you can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline 24 hours a day (1-800-656-HOPE).
If you ask for help, the person might also support you filing a police report. Don’t be silenced by the perpetrator, even if it is someone you love.