Mirroring
is taking the same posture as the person you are talking with.
If people are involved in conversation and are really in touch
with each other they often unconsciously copy the posture and gestures of the
one they are speaking with.
You
may be able to notice this if you are on a party and look around. If two people
have an intimate conversation they may stand or sit in the same way, keeping their
legs in the same position, a glass in the same hand, even talking in the same
rhythm.
Mirroring
may be used deliberately as a flirtatious
technique. You observe the way the other person stands or sits and after a while
assume the same position. Of course this has to be done subtly! Don’t do it too
quickly (wait at least 2-40 seconds) and don’t overdo it. It has to look natural.
If you do it well the other person may get the impression to be in touch with
you. It’s a simple but powerful way to built rapport as long as the target remains
unaware of your intentions.