I am 14 and SM movies get me really excited. This started when I was a kid and played a game with my girlfriend in which she had to spank me. How can I make this really happen when I meet a guy? I would love to be tied up and be spanked.

Power play in sex is potentially dangerous, especially if you take the submissive position. If you get into a relationship with a guy who is dominant you run the risk that he is not only dominant in the bedroom but also in everyday life, treating you badly or even abusing you. The hard part is finding someone who likes to be sexually dominant but who considers you an equal in everyday life, treating you with respect. Because SM relationships are complex it might be better to wait a while to get involved. In the meantime you can satisfy your desires by masturbating and fantasizing. Read about sadomasochistic fantasies and experiences of others and find out how those involved met their partners. That’s a safe way to discover the SM world and figure out what you would like to try in the future and what you don’t want. When the time is ripe you can try to find a guy who likes to be sexually dominant.