I heard coming simultaneously is more intimate. But how can we achieve this?

There are many sex manuals that offer advice on how to orgasm at the same time. But the quest for perfect timing is normally hard work and little else. That’s because in real life orgasms are anything but well planned. You both have to time it and this takes a lot of energy. Fine tuning the timing can easily result in a loss of spontaneity and fun. What’s more is that during orgasm you’re so wrapped up in your own feelings that the sensation of the partner’s orgasm is largely lost. Thus the idea of it being more intimate is an illusion. So forget it and just enjoy whatever is happening instead of striving after a goal that’s not worth the effort.