My vagina stays dry when making love. This makes coïtus painful. What’s wrong with me?

First of all it is important to get excited before you start intercourse. If you start too quickly, your vagina is still somewhat dry and the movement of the penis will cause irritation. So ask your lover if he’ll first stimulate your clitoris with his hand or mouth. If you do get excited but don’t get wet at all, you should see your physician. The amount of lubrication differs greatly. Some women become very wet, while others don’t lubricate much. This variety is normal. But if your vagina remains completely dry while excited something may be wrong. Common causes are high blood pressure, a hardening of the arteries, diabetes, the Sjögren syndrome, a wide range of skin conditions, breastfeeding, contraceptive pills with too much progestogen, anorexia and menopause. In the meantime you can solve the problem by using an artificial water based lubricant. Put some of it on the penis and at the entrance of your vagina before having intercourse.