If you have a vaginistic reaction it might be a good idea to seek help. By talking about it with a sexologist you might get some insight into the problem. But insight is not always necessary to solve vaginismus. You can also try solving it yourself first. By ‘exercising’ you must learn how to relax the muscles around your vagina:
Choose a time when you are relaxed and nothing else needs to be done and choose a place where you will not be disturbed.
Undress and look at your vulva with a mirror. Try to locate the different parts, drawing your lips apart: the outer lips, the inner lips, the clitoris, the pee hole, the vaginal opening. If you have strong negative feelings, take your time to get relaxed. Try again the next day. It may take some time before the anxiety that is caused by looking at your vulva disappears.
Find your love muscles and practise these. For these PC-muscles are the ones you tighten, making it impossible to insert a tampon, a finger or have intercourse.

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