
Do lesbians remain virgins, even when they have had sex?
If you lose your virginity only if a penis
enters the vagina
(the traditional definition of virginity) it implies that lesbians remain
virgin, even if they had sex. This shows how old fashioned the term
‘virgin’ actually is. It stems from a time when only heterosexuality
was considered normal, women were considered to be the property of men
and sex equalled intercourse.
I think it is more informative to speak about people who are sexually
experienced or inexperienced, since intercourse is only one of the possible
sexual acts people can engage in. The fact that we only have a quick
word for someone who has fucked for the first time reveals what our
culture considers most important and worth talking about. Hopefully
this will change.